Now that 2016 is here, I’ve been thinking a lot about what I want out of this year. At the end of each year and the first couple of weeks of a new year, the internet is packed with posts about making goals and setting intentions. These are fantastic to read, and inspire readers, but as I’ve tried to sit down for a few hours over the past two weeks, I haven't been able to set goals.
I love goals, more than I probably should. For the past 5 years, I’ve set goals every year, and have accomplished a majority of them. But the ones that I set and don’t accomplish, there’s a part of me that feels like a failure.
There is too much pressure put on us to have huge goals that we’re going to crush. (Which, if we’re being honest, we crush it all the time. High five, ya’ll!!!) But what if I don’t want to set goals? Being an entrepreneur feels like a mystery, and every day there are new clues and insight into where I might be going. What if I want to go with the flow and feel things out? General goals, setting an income that I want to make for the year? Great. Those are set. Creating goals for an entire year, (which in case you’ve forgotten, is 52 weeks, 365 days, and 8,760 hours), is freaking intense.
Life can be unexpected, there are curve balls thrown at you, and it’s important for us to take it as it happens and be able to readjust what we have going on. Not only can setting goals for the entire year be unattainable because of curveballs, but they also are unattainable because so many goals are set vaguely or unintentionally.
“I want to be healthy this year.”
“I want to travel more.”
“I want to create more work that I love.”
“I want to stop drinking coffee” (just kidding, don’t do that. :P )
Those goals are vague and don’t have any actionable steps to make them attainable. So, as it always goes, it’ll be a goal for an entire year that will sit in the back of your mind, and weigh on your conscious, maybe even at random times of the day you’ll think “oh, I should probably work on that.” But it never happens, and that’s normal. That’s completely okay. But, with goals that have attainable steps, they’re so specific that they can STILL weigh on your conscious, and it makes you feel like a failure when you don’t follow through.
That is why, for now, I’m okay with not setting goals.
I’m choosing a word instead. (Or a few.)
A word that can motivate me and keep me going. When I want to embark on a new adventure, I can think, is this what I really want or am I doing it just because it seems like a good idea? Does this align with my word?? Yes? Cool, I’m doing it. No? Looks like I’m moving onto something else.
Having a word doesn’t carry the same weight as the goals that people typically set every year. It’s something that might inspire you, or keep you going when times get tough. Entrepreneurs and creatives are already stressed out enough, why add to it with goals that are either unattainable or make you feel like a failure when you’re looking back on an incredible year?
What's motivating me in 2016 is: resilient. A very good friend of mine once told me, "be resilient in everything that you do." That has impacted how I look at new opportunities and when making decisions. There are so many opportunities out there, and I know that not all of them are going to work out. I'm might be told "no," or maybe an opportunity doesn't work out, but those won't stop me from pushing forward.
Need to choose a word?
Here's how I chose mine:
-Pick a word that motivates you, something that is empowering, and that lights a fire in your gut when you hear it.
Have a word? (Or a few!) Let's break it down.
-WHY does that word motivate you?
-How will it inspire your daily routine?
-How will that word keep you going when times get rough?
-Does this word make you crave more out of life, and/or your business?
-Do you believe in it?
Always remember, nothing is carved in stone. Your plans can change at any time, and it's okay. Interests change as you learn more, and that influences what your goals are or how you look at life. Don't be too hard on yourself this year.
Let's make 2016 incredible, mkay?
P.S: Did you choose a word? What word did you decide on and why?